Control vs Influence
Control vs. Influence
We all ultimately desire control over our lives and often feel upset when things don't go according to plan. The following graphic depicts three levels of control that help put things into perspective.
🟢 Inner Circle: What We Can Control
This includes our own actions, reactions, and mindset. However, it's important to recognize that sometimes, even our reactions can be involuntary due to the brain's automatic responses, such as the fight-or-flight mechanism.
🟡 Middle Circle: What We Can Influence
This encompasses areas where we have some sway but not full control, such as relationships with family, friends, and colleagues. While we can influence others, we cannot dictate their actions or decisions.
🔴 Outer Circle: What We Cannot Control
These are factors entirely beyond our control, like traffic, weather, or global events. Worrying about these elements often leads to unnecessary stress without any productive outcome.
Note: Focusing our energy on areas within our control and influence can lead to greater personal effectiveness and reduced stress. Recognizing and accepting the limits of our control is a vital step toward personal growth.